How could I forget to praise You, O Lord?
  When Your goodness is all around
   reminding me to sing Your praises,
   to shout them out loud.
 
How could I forget to praise you, O Lord?
  When Your creation reminds me that
  You and only You, O Lord are the Creator.
 
Nature is Yours, created by You.  It is Yours
  to remind me of Your presence.  You are
  everywhere, to remind me to praise Your
  Holy Name.
 
The wind rustles and the gentle breeze moves
  the leaves of Your mighty oak and I am
  reminded of Your loving touch when You comfort
  me and I praise You.
 
The thunder roars and the lighting flashes,
  reminding me of Your might and I praise You.
  The sun comes out and the warm rays remind
  me of Your light that I am to follow and I praise You.
 
A gentle rain takes the place of the breeze and
  reminds me that You and only You can wash away
  my sins and I praise You.
 
Your world and all that is in it is a reminder to praise You O Lord!
Because You are worthy to be praised.

© 2023 H.M. Rowe BSN, Ed.M.   All Rights Reserved

Your tongue is a powerful tool and its power must not be underestimated.  “The tongue has the power of life and death…” (Proverbs 18:21 NIV).  

The words of a witness can free or imprison a man, a rumor can ruin a person’s reputation, and the words of a teacher can destroy a student’s confidence.  Likewise, the words you speak to your child can have positive or negative effects on his life. 

Unfortunately, the people we love the most, those closest to us, are often the last to get encouragement or hear words from the “life-giving fountain”.  All too often, in the heat of the moment, we say things to our children, that cannot be erased.  We say things that can destroy, hurt, or even create hateful and humiliating feelings that may never be forgotten. 

Are you guilty of using hurtful, harmful words to your child?  If so, unfortunately you can’t change yesterday but you can make a new start tomorrow…start encouraging your child…start using nothing but “life-giving words.”  Start now to…
 

1. Seek God’s guidance and ask Him to help you parent His way!
2. Start using “life-giving” words.
3. Talk less, listen more so that you can “feel” what your child may be feeling.
4. Be sensitive to timing – recognize when you don’t have time to talk to your child.
5. Don’t judge your child.
6. Be aware of your own feelings.
7. Do not be sarcastic or use verbal put-downs.

It is never too late to express understanding or convey confidence in your children.  Pay close attention to how you speak to them.  Your words are the most important words your children will hear.  Your words can counteract the negative words they hear from others. 

Is your home one that encourages or is it filled with sarcasm and put-downs?  Remember, “The tongue has the power of life and death…” (Proverbs 18:21 NIV).  Speak encouraging, “life-giving” words to your child and you will be parenting on purpose…parenting God’s way!

God has an amazing life planned for each of us.  This life is not just going to drop into our laps, we have an active role to play in achieving this life.   Recently I had the opportunity to speak to a group of students for their Career Day.  I shared with them some of the things they need to do to obtain this amazing life.  The speech was titled, “Be All God Wants You To Be.” The following is what I shared with them.  Perhaps you and/or your child will hear God speak to you as you read this.

Today I want to do two things: I want to tell you a little about me and where I came from and then, I am going to talk about you, and the AMAZING life God has planned for you and your part in achieving this AMAZING life.

I was born in West Virginia, in a little mining camp called Phico.  I am the 7th child of 9 children.  We were an extended family…my grandmother, aunt, uncle and cousin were nearby.  

As you can imagine, with 9 children, my Mom was kept very busy as a homemaker and my Dad as a coal miner.  That’s not to say they didn’t have time for all of us, because they did and all of us felt loved.  But early on I became attached to my Grandmother.  If someone was looking for me, they knew they could find me with my Grandmother.  Maybe it was because I was her name-sake and I wore and still wear her name with pride.  

I spent a lot of time with my beloved Grandmother. You might even say that my Grandmother instilled in me many of the values I have today.  She would tell me that she loved me and that God loves me.  She told me that I could do anything that I put my mind to.  She said, “Child, remember to look people in the eyes when you talk to them, hold your head up.  And remember, no one is any better than you and you are no better than anyone else.”  

Fast forward a few years.  I was in the 7th grade and late one night as I was sleeping, I could hear my mother saying to my grandmother, “Momma, why don’t you just lie down?”  My Grandmother answered, “I can’t lie down.”  I jumped up, and I saw my Grandmother pacing up and down the hall.  The next thing I knew, she was on the floor and my sister, Mary was doing CPR on my Grandmother.  911 was called.  That night, I lost my grandmother.  I kneeled beside her on the floor, holding her hand.  As I held my dying grandmother’s hand, I promised myself that the next time something like that happened, I would know what to do.  

Fast forward again.  After I graduated from high school, I applied to The Ohio State University School of Nursing and was accepted.  Everything was just as you would imagine the Freshman year would be…late nights studying and writing papers, missed meals and yes, still gaining “The Freshman 10” …the pounds gained in one’s Freshman year.  

Everything was going okay until I met “Mr. Chemistry.”  Oh, my goodness!  Chemistry was a real struggle for me.  And to top it off, my chemistry lab was on Saturday at 8:00…that’s 8 in the morning.  

One Saturday morning, I was having a difficult time finding the bacteria or viruses under the microscope.  And to make matters worse, the graduate assistant was, hum, should I say, a jerk?  I asked him a question and he responded just like a jerk would do… in a jerk like fashion.  So, I did something that I DO NOT RECOMMEND you do…I put my things away and I walked out of the classroom.

My plan was to go to the professor’s office Monday morning and drop the class.  And, as planned, I was there bright and early Monday.  I told him EXACTLY what had happened, to include my walking out of the office.  You know what he said to me?  He looked me straight in the eyes and said, “You don’t really want to be a nurse, do you?”

His words cut me like a knife! I had made a promise holding my dying Grandmother’s hand and at the sign of the first struggle, I was ready to quit.

Before I answered, he said, “I tell you what, you come in to see me after ever class and I will cover whatever it is you don’t understand.”  Wow!  I took him up on his offer.  I only needed to go in 2 or maybe 3 times.  It was just a small concept that I didn’t understand and with his help, I was off and running. I got a “B” in the class.

Lessons learned:

---Don’t give up on your dreams—I shudder now to even think that I was going to let a jerk steal my dream.  I almost gave him control over deciding what I would do with my life.  There will be times in your life when someone will make you feel inadequate or incapable of accomplishing your dreams.  Just remember, God will give you what you need to succeed. Philippians 4:13 tells us, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”

---Struggle is okay—Struggle does not mean you should give up.  My Grandmother would tell me that anything worth having is worth fighting for and worth the struggle.  And remember Psalm 46:1, God is your refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. He will send you the help you need.

---Don’t walk out of class—This was not a smart move.  The good thing is, because of the Professor, the help that God sent me, I kept going.  “Champions keep playing until they get it right.” ~ Billie Jean King

God has an AMAZING life planned for you.  Let’s look at a few things that can help you to be what He wants you to be.

THINGS THAT WILL HELP YOU TO BE ALL THAT GOD WANTS YOU TO BE

•    Know who you are
  
•    Know there’s a purpose for your life
•    Know that you are a winner

KNOW WHO YOU ARE- It’s all about becoming who God created you to be.

If I asked you to list who you are you would probably give me your name.  But remember, you are also a son/daughter, brother/sister, student, classmate, teammate, and so on.
But who are you when it comes to your character?

Are you loyal?

•     Do you try to adjust your schedule if you are needed
  
•     Do you stand with those who are needed or are you wishy washy?
•     Do you follow the wishes of those responsible for you?  Do you obey your parents?

How do you handle responsibility?

•     Do you fulfill the expectations of those who are counting on you?  Do you always do
  
•     your best?
•     Do you complete your tasks so that it endures testing?
•     Do you consider task given to you as important and work as though it is?
•     Are you able to make routine tasks enjoyable?

Are you courageous?

• Will you take high level courses in school or will you settle for classes that you know you   can pass with an easy “A”?
  
• Will you decide to apply to a demanding college even though you are afraid of rejection?
• Will you audition for a high level music class even if it means that you have to learn a very difficult song?

    
KNOW THERE’S A PURPOSE FOR YOUR LIFE- Have goals

The Bible tells us that a people without a vision will perish.  And as Zig Ziglar said, “If you aim at nothing, you will hit nothing every time.”

Types of goals/vision

•     Short Range Goals: Read 4 books in 1 month or finish a science project in 3 weeks
  
•     Medium Range Goals:  Be ready to run a marathon in 1 year
•     Long Range Goal: Go to college after high school graduation, become an engineer    

Benefits of goals

•     Goals help you set priorities
  
•     Goals help you focus your efforts
•     Goals help you set your schedule
•     Goals help you balance your life

How do your reach your goal?

•     Pray! Know that God has equipped you for success
  
•     Be bold!  Don’t limit what God has in store for you.  He may want your goal to be bigger
•     Think and speak positive about your goals
•      “If you change what you’re saying, you’ll change what you’re seeing.” ~ Joel Osteen
  
•     Write your goals down
  
•      Keep your goals in front of you-put them where you can see them all the time
  

            
Visualize your success-see yourself as an engineer
 
“The mind has a miraculous ability to figure out ways of achieving what it thinks about most.”

 “The tragedy of life does not lie in not reaching your goals.  The tragedy lies in not having any goals to reach.  It isn’t a calamity to die with dreams unfulfilled.  But it is a calamity not to dream.” ~ Dr. Benjamin Mays


3.  There is a winner inside of you
“You were designed for accomplishment, engineered for success, and endowed with seeds of greatness.” ~ Zig Ziglar

“When God lays something on your heart to do, your only responsibility is to just start.  God doesn’t give you the strength to overcome, He gives you the strength WHILE you overcome.”  ~Fred Smith

Three ingredients to bringing out the winner in you

•     A burning desire
  
•     Hope
  
•     Grit

Picture in your mind a big beautiful hot air balloon.  This is a special balloon and it can take you across the widest ocean and over the tallest mountain.

The destination is up to you.

How you live each day, the choices you make, the habits you create, and how you define success, significance and legacy will determine which direction the balloon goes.

If you are not intentional, the winds of life will take you to places you never wanted to go.

1.  Desire–  Is the basket of the balloon and it is the wish to possess or obtain something.  Determine what you really want, load the basket with your gifts, talents, skills, get excited, think about it all the time, make that vision board and before you know it, you have a burning desire.  You know, that feeling you get when you really want something for your birthday? The more you think about it, the more passionate you become about getting it and the more you talk about it to your parents.

2.    Hope--  As you talk to your parents, they begin to say things that make you think you will get that special item.  Think about how it feels. It is the same feeling when you are working towards your goals in life.  This burning desire leads to hope because you now know exactly what you want and you begin to take action.

3.    Grit--  The action you take is special…it is grit!  This is your toughness, determination, it is your refusal to give up and your ability to get back up when you fall down.

A desire becomes clearly defined -----now it is a burning desire----this burning desire focuses, harnesses and influences the will and your willpower increases----this leads to action and powers your daily habits.  

Desires gets transformed into dreams and goals and action is the natural result.

A winner is:

1.     Determined

• Realize that your present struggles are essential for future achievement.  A clam grown a beautiful pearl because of an irritation under its shell.
  
• Breaks down a seemingly impossible task into do able tasks.  
  
• Never gives up and does whatever is needed to finish a project.
  
• Does not get distracted
  
• Utilizes resources effectively
  

 2.    Orderly

• Organizes and utilizes resources
  
• Clean and well groomed
• Avoids things and even people that hinder achievement
• Have specific areas for different things i.e. study area

3.     Shows Initiative

• Explores new areas of interest
  
• Will take the lead when needed
• Acts with assurance of a positive outcome

4.     Is decisive is a decision maker

• Will not consider a decision which he knows is not right
  
• Devotes energy to a course of action that is right
• Evaluates courses of action based on values

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Once upon a time there was an eagle’s nest on the top of a huge mountain. There were 4 eggs in the nest.  One day there was an earthquake and one of the eggs fell out and rolled to the bottom of the mountain.  It just so happened that there was a chicken farm in the valley.  The chickens knew that the egg needed to be cared for.  One of the older hens decided that she would be the one to nurture the egg…and she did.  

The egg hatched and a beautiful baby eagle was born.  The eagle loved the chickens and they loved him…they were family.  They played together…if the chickens would cluck, the eagle clucked.  The chickens would peck in the grass for seeds and the eagle would do the same.  The chickens would fly 3 feet and the eagle would only fly 3 feet.  The eagle did everything that the chickens did.

One day when they were out in the yard, the eagle looked up and saw a beautiful bird flying.  He was very impressed and knew that he wanted to fly like that.  He asked the chickens, “What is that?”  The chickens told him that he was looking at a very majestic bird, an eagle.  They told him that he was a chicken and would never be able to fly like that.  But the eagle felt like he should be doing more.  But each time he looked up and saw the majestic bird, he felt like that should be him.  And, each time he looked up and saw the eagle soaring, his chicken family would tell him he was just a chicken and to forget flying like an eagle.  

The eagle finally accepted what the chickens told him.  He lived the life of a chicken and died as a chicken depriving himself of his dream and of his heritage.  He was born to win but allowed the chickens to still his dream.

MORAL of this story: Don’t let negative people drag you down.  Remember, you become what you believe you are.  If you dream of being an eagle, follow your dreams, not the words of chickens.  You were made to soar, so SOAR!

**I have heard this story many times.  Unfortunately, I do not know who to give credit to for this beautiful story.